Nobody wants to play a game they are luke-warm on and nobody wants to be in a relationship they’re not enthusiastic about. We can learn a lot about ourselves and others if we treat tabletop gaming more similar to the ways we treat giving consent in a relationship. It is important to be introspective when it comes to the games we subject other people to and take into account their personalities, their preferences, and their limits. Consent is critical to enjoying virtually anything in life. We simply request you always ask for consent and look for an enthusiastic agreement in response, rather than simply convincing your table to say “yes.” Constructing an experience your players will enjoy is far more important than persuading them to agree to an experience they might not enjoy. If everyone at the table enjoys their time spent together, don’t we all win?

On many occasions, I have been playing a game and had choices made for me without my consent by an alpha gamer. An alpha gamer is a player who requires a dominant role or position over other players during a game. This can ruin experiences for other players and, in my case, it's not something I had been prepared for ahead of time. We, as an industry, are now more aware of what alpha gaming looks like and it’s effects on other players. We need to be aware that all consent within a game should be enthusiastic. An example,

Player 1: You should make this choice on your turn, it is what is best for you.

Player 2: oh okay. I guess I will do that.

This is where player one should ask if player two is sure about this because they didn't give enthusiastic consent. Instead of making the decision for them they could instead ask, “Would you be okay with me making a recommendation?”

Player 2 will feel more inclined to give true feelings if asked again because it is showing general care and good gamer etiquette

This example may be a small thing people overlook, but small things can change how immersed and comfortable you are in a gaming experience. No one wants to ruin anyone's game night by not allowing them to play a game the way they want. However, before you do something, simply ask and make sure to receive enthusiastic consent. Many adults have busy lives, especially if they have children or other responsibilities outside of tabletop gaming. It’s important for everyone at the table to understand this and respect how valuable everyone's limited time is. The kindest thing we can do for each other is to respect and value the time we spend together and be mindful of the other people's needs and wants.